The Anger In The House

Introduction
As we have seen on other occasions, God's desire is that we stay with joy, but we also know that sometimes are problems that cause some anger, and that the will of God is that we solve them immediately:

Eph 4:26 If you become angry, do not let your anger lead you into sin, and do not stay angry all day.

(CSB) Eph 4:26 Be angry and do not sin. Don't let the sun go down on your anger,
Eph 4:27 and don't give the Devil an opportunity.

This definitely relates to cases where an oversight or a mistake bother someone, but will not discuss those cases today, but those that cause anger among family because there is something wrong with the heart. This is very dangerous because it can take anywhere from a split in the house until death, including physical assaults, look how much importance God gives to have no anger in our families for invalid reasons:

Mat 5:21 "You have heard that people were told in the past, 'Do not commit murder; anyone who does will be brought to trial.'
Mat 5:22 But now I tell you: if you are angry with your brother you will be brought to trial, if you call your brother 'You good-for-nothing!' you will be brought before the Council, and if you call your brother a worthless fool you will be in danger of going to the fire of hell.

Some versions say: anyone who is angry with his brother without a cause shall be damned, why? because curiously, sometimes occurs problems among brothers that do not occur between friends, but among relatives can lead to terrible things.

INVALID REASONS FOR ANGRY
Anger caused by Jealousy

Gen 4:3 And in process of time it came to pass, that Cain brought of the fruit of the ground an offering unto the LORD.
Gen 4:4 And Abel, he also brought of the firstlings of his flock and of the fat thereof. And the LORD had respect unto Abel and to his offering:
Gen 4:5 But unto Cain and to his offering he had not respect. And Cain was very wroth, and his countenance fell.
Gen 4:8 And Cain talked with Abel his brother: and it came to pass, when they were in the field, that Cain rose up against Abel his brother, and slew him.

On this verse the word “wroth” comes from the Hebrew kjará that can also be translated as jealousy. This means that sometimes comes anger between brothers because they are jealous of the other one that perhaps has done more and that has achieved great things.
We see an Abel, who worked to deliver his offering on time and a Cain who brought his offering in process of time, therefore he did not do what was right in the face of God, and the envy that he felt upon Abel led him to anger and kill him, the Bible says:



Job 5:2 For wrath killeth the foolish man, and envy slayeth the silly one.

Note the reason why the envy comes: THE GREED, greed is an excessive desire to acquire or possess more than what one needs or deserves. Let´s see the process: From greed to envy, from envy to anger, from anger (because of envy) to death.

Jas 4:2 You want things, but you cannot have them, so you are ready to kill; you strongly desire things, but you cannot get them, so you quarrel and fight. You do not have what you want because you do not ask God for it.

Sometimes the younger brothers are more courageous than the older, and that leads them to success before the others, thing that was caused because of the carelessness of the olders and becomes envy, and if that is not removed can lead them to terrible divisions which drive them to make worse things:

1Jn 3:12 We must not be like Cain; he belonged to the Evil One and murdered his own brother Abel. Why did Cain murder him? Because the things he himself did were wrong, and the things his brother did were right.

THE ANGER FOR BEING CARELESS

Gen 25:29 One day while Jacob was cooking some bean soup, Esau came in from hunting. He was hungry
Gen 25:30 and said to Jacob, "I'm starving; give me some of that red stuff." (That is why he was named Edom. )
Gen 25:31 Jacob answered, "I will give it to you if you give me your rights as the first-born son."
Gen 25:32 Esau said, "All right! I am about to die; what good will my rights do me?"
Gen 25:33 Jacob answered, "First make a vow that you will give me your rights." Esau made the vow and gave his rights to Jacob.

It is clear that Esau sold his birthright voluntarily, so why claim it later?

Gen 27:41 Esau hated Jacob, because his father had given Jacob the blessing. He thought, "The time to mourn my father's death is near; then I will kill Jacob."
Gen 27:42 But when Rebecca heard about Esau's plan, she sent for Jacob and said, "Listen, your brother Esau is planning to get even with you and kill you.
Gen 27:43 Now, son, do what I say. Go at once to my brother Laban in Haran,
Gen 27:44 and stay with him for a while, until your brother's anger cools down
Gen 27:45 and he forgets what you have done to him. Then I will send someone to bring you back. Why should I lose both of my sons on the same day?"

There is anger that is difficult to heal, especially when there are sibling business and for carelessness of one, the other receives the best part.
If being in their right mind gave someone something important, why claim what was left voluntarily? In any case there are ways to try to reframe an issue, but it is wrong to get angry about something that you accepted by yourself.

ANGER FOR DISCRIMINATION

Son 1:5 Women of Jerusalem, I am dark but beautiful, dark as the desert tents of Kedar, but beautiful as the draperies in Solomon's palace.
Son 1:6 Don't look down on me because of my color, because the sun has tanned me. My brothers were angry with me and made me work in the vineyard. I had no time to care for myself.
(NKJVr) Son 1:6 Do not look upon me, because I am dark, Because the sun has tanned me. My mother's sons were angry with me; They made me the keeper of the vineyards, But my own vineyard I have not kept. (TO HER BELOVED)

On this version we understand that this woman was a member of a home they call mixed, ie where a parent was married before and was left with children of that marriage, then remarried and are children of remarriage, but THE BROTHERS (say adopted), discriminate against new and that is why they get angry with them, without anyone being guilty of anything, and that leads to injustice.

Why there should be reconciliation?
1Jn 2:9 If we say that we are in the light, yet hate others, we are in the darkness to this very hour.
1Jn 2:10 If we love others, we live in the light, and so there is nothing in us that will cause someone else to sin.
1Jn 2:11 But if we hate others, we are in the darkness; we walk in it and do not know where we are going, because the darkness has made us blind.

Reconciliation is necessary because otherwise you cannot walk in the light and therefore runs the risk of becoming a place of death?

1Jn 3:14 We know that we have left death and come over into life; we know it because we love others. Those who do not love are still under the power of death.
1Jn 3:15 Those who hate others are murderers, and you know that murderers do not have eternal life in them.

One who is not released from the hatred of his brother remains in death and that can cause
even though he has already been saved, may end up returning the eternal life that God gave
him.

1Jn 4:20 If we say we love God, but hate others, we are liars. For we cannot love God, whom we have not seen, if we do not love others, whom we have seen.
1Jn 4:21 The command that Christ has given us is this: whoever loves God must love others also.

It has given us the commandment that we love, so there's no excuse not to, and it
testifies to God who truly love Him.