Treatment of wife

Introduction
There are many things that we start to know and learn until we come to Christ.
One of these things is the way of how to treat the wife. For some perhaps this expression is even shocking, but should remember that it is a commandment of the Holy Spirit who gives us the example of Jesus Christ so that we do. Also is not only a good standard of education but a condition for achieving other blessings, because the Bible says:

1Pe 3:7 Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with honor as the weaker partner, since you are joint heirs of the grace of life, so that your prayers will not be hindered.

In the previous verse are things we are going to study, but first let´s see another verse:

Eph 5:25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her,

Here are 3 stages in this beautiful experience that is marriage:
1) We must love the wife.
2) You have to love her as Christ loved the church.
3) You have to surrender yourself to her.

LOVE THE WIFE
Remember that we are not talking about a suggestion, but a commandment given by the Holy Spirit. At the first level of this commandment to love your wife, we find that to love them has to be another simultaneous or parallel expression to express our love, let´s see:

Col 3:19 Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them.

This means that the fulfillment of the commandment is through a deal with delicacy, with them a weaker vessel.

Col 3:19 Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them.

The husband must learn to be nice to your wife.

Col 3:19 Husbands, love your wives and do not be bitter toward them.

No excuse is better in many or few years of marriage, husbands for their wives to be unpleasant.
Here is another action that must accompany the manifestation of love:

1Pe 3:7 Husbands, likewise, live together according to knowledge as with a weaker vessel, with the wife, showing her honor as also a fellow heir of the grace of life, in order that your prayers may not be hindered.

A wife should be given his place forever, not only to others but in the intimate in the bedroom.

1Pe 3:7 Husbands, likewise, live together according to knowledge as with a weaker vessel, with the wife, showing her honor as also a fellow heir of the grace of life, in order that your prayers may not be hindered.

1Pe 3:7 You husbands, do you on your part behave with prudence towards your wives: who being of a more delicate make, ought to be treated with the greater tenderness: and consider they are equally intitled to the evangelical gifts, that your prayers may not be frustrated.

1Pe 3:7 You husbands, likewise, conduct your married lives with understanding. Although your wife may be weaker physically, you should respect her as a fellow-heir of the gift of Life. If you don't, your prayers will be blocked.

To shame the wife in front of others is not treating them with honor.

1Pe 3:7 De la misma manera, esposos, compartid vuestra vida con ellas sabiamente, tratándolas con el honor de la ternura...

Note the way to love: being gentle not harsh, giving honor, being nice not bland, honor them in public and not shame them in private, the deal must be respectful and understanding, being discreet and not scandalous, to treat them gently honors them, and so our prayers will be answered successfully. The first level, which would become the court in the evolution of love, includes all these aspects.

SECOND STAGE: HOLY PLACE; LOVE HER AS CHRIST LOVED THE CHURCH

1Jn 4:19 We love because God first loved us.

Loving first.

2Th 2:16 May our Lord Jesus Christ himself and God our Father, who loved us and in his grace gave us unfailing courage and a firm hope,
2Th 2:17 encourage you and strengthen you to always do and say what is good.

ALWAYS giving comfort, giving hope without expecting anything in return, stating at what they do and giving good words.

Eph 2:4 But God's mercy is so abundant, and his love for us is so great,
Eph 2:5 that while we were spiritually dead in our disobedience he brought us to life with Christ. It is by God's grace that you have been saved.

Rom 8:37 No, in all these things we have complete victory through him who loved us!

Let them be winners for the sacrifice that we can do for them as their husbands.

Joh 13:1 It was now the day before the Passover Festival. Jesus knew that the hour had come for him to leave this world and go to the Father. He had always loved those in the world who were his own, and he loved them to the very end.

Mar 10:21 Jesus looked straight at him with love…
To love simply with a look of love.

THIRD STAGE: MOST HOLY PLACE; LOVE BY RENDERING FOR HER
That rendering by her means dying yourself, however, remember that when you die to yourself, the one who is going to be noticed is Christ, and therefore what we will achieve is to fulfill God's purpose for our lives, we no longer live but Christ in us....

Gal 2:20 so that it is no longer I who live, but it is Christ who lives in me. This life that I live now, I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave his life for me.

How do we render our selves?

Eph 5:2 Your life must be controlled by love, just as Christ loved us and gave his life for us as a sweet-smelling offering and sacrifice that pleases God.

When we are an offering and sacrifice pleasing to God willingly, means that we do not do things on our first convenience to make them happy.

Gal 5:24 And those who belong to Christ Jesus have put to death their human nature with all its passions and desires.

He who gave himself for his wife, is one who kills the passions and desires of his flesh outside of God's order.

Col 3:5 You must put to death, then, the earthly desires at work in you, such as sexual immorality, indecency, lust, evil passions, and greed (for greed is a form of idolatry).

Gal 1:4 In order to set us free from this present evil age, Christ gave himself for our sins, in obedience to the will of our God and Father.

It is the role of the husband to sacrifice for his wife, for making her one to us (as when she was within Adam in the form of rib) we get her in the fullness of Christ and Christ both get us one day in the Father.